I was a tomboy.
I was playing more with explosives and drugs on the street that with barbies having a lovely tea party with grandma’s cookies. I had more fights that I had dresses.
While growing up I have more connected with the concept of tenderness, warmth and unconditional love way more often with men that with women around me. In my family. In my community. Among my teachers, friends, mentors and even random drunk homeless people.
Somehow, I understood way better with men what the actual vulnerability and unconditional acceptance means.
I had very resilient, cold, strong, numb, proud, wonderful superwomen around me. Emotionally almost dead, but fuck Super Women they were and still are! They are all my North Stars into the most powerful and transformative spaces, but they are not where I go to learn the concept of Love and Peace. Strangely enough.
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I am a science (and to some degree the technology) geek.
I am rational. Often very logical and I try my best to stay grounded and real most of the time.
I was a mechanical engineer.
I had teachers at the university telling me that I am there only because I am not good enough to find myself a husband to take care of me and be happy. This teacher was a man.
Most of my academic and professional life was mainly done with men.
I was also working in the industry that was the most dramatically sad on the charts for women/man ratio in all the positions and departments.
I was also one of the HQPs (whatever this fucking means) and I was working at the top management level with very ‘important’ and serious people doing very ‘world transforming and mind-blowing’ stuff all around the world.
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I know, I love, I work and play with, and I deeply honour and respect many men in my life.
Women too. In so many multidimensional levels with all of that and even more. But this one is not about Us. I’ll get to the real crunchy ‘woman’ part at some point.
This one is for Men.
Even if I have many fascinating stories in all of the spheres of my life with men and masculinity in general, this one will mainly be about my professional life as you could have already guessed.
Also, the small she/he/you/they/we/its disclaimer before I go further.
I honestly believe that each one of us has the Man, the Woman, the Child, the Elder, the Weirdo, the Animal, the God and everything else you can possibly think of inside of ourselves! All of it is There, way closer than you think, and you have unlimited access to all of it every single moment.
I don’t care if you identify yourself with one of them or all of them today. This makes no real difference… to possible no one, except You.
Today when I talk about Men, I talk about one of the faces of this collective archetype we all share since the beginning of times.
I am not talking about your physiological constitution and your absence or presence of the penis. I am talking about the Men part in my own psyche and what I have experienced in some of the moments of my life with the collective The Man concept.
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I believe there is no single system in this world that is actually ‘created’.
(Yes! You can laugh now at my business name with me. It’s actually a part of The Joke…)
Every single system on this Earth is Emergent, not created.
And it’s very important to understand what it means. Truly and for everything.
To heal ourselves, to relate better to our community and to help this planet regenerate.
This is one of the ‘divine’ Laws that will probably remain no matter what you do and no matter how much you invest in AI, geoengineering and space, quantum energy or even fucking time travel, whatever you fucking want… be my guest.
The concept of systemic Emergence is beyond your fucking power and even imagination. Deal with it. You don’t need your Mind for this. Just a simple acknowledgement and humility in your Heart that this is bigger than you, always was and always will be.
So, no, I am sorry to possibly disappoint some, but there are no ‘aliens’ or demons or whatever else controlling and manipulating the ‘system’ to keep you slaved, broken and unhappy.
This ‘system’ was not created. This system is the visible result of how broken and completely fucked our collective consciousness is right now. That’s it.
There is no one to blame. To fight. To destroy.
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So. Ok. But it’s still fucked. There is war, there is hunger, and we will potentially be ‘cooked’ very soon with whatever the Earth has in mind right now. So, what do we do?
Is there anything that we can do to help the Life and the Nature do some magic and Emerge for us a more coherent and peaceful ‘system’?
Oh! Now we are talking about the real stuff.
Of course, you can. And please DO!
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Once something has emerged to the surface and is being experienced in the physical world, this means that there are some deep roots running already in the depth of the Earth for some time now.
We need to look for the forces, charges, attractors, repulsors and important energies that are around and at power play in the ‘system’.
Even when we talk about The ‘System’ as a mysterious concept of the Matrix movie, in our current reality the ‘roots’ of our deeply fucked system are actually very clear and very simple.
The entire system and all the subsystems of this world are being held on 3 sticks only.
There are 3 main roots that are responsible for the emergence of the very fucked and self-destroying ‘system’ over and over for a few centuries now.
Can you guess what they are?
Or, well. I simply invite you to contemplate what they are for You personally. I am sure it could be a really fascinating self-exploration to look at the roots and the soil, before trying to cut the weeds!
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For me the 3 roots are: Wounded Individualism, Patriarchy and Colonialism.
Every single macro, meso-and micro system of your reality are poisoned by those 3 things that we try very hard to not look at and not to talk about.
Every single problem and ‘complex’ issue at the organizational level, sector level, industry level, country level and this point even fucking galactic level are literally coming from the fact that we have not faced and truly sit and opened our heart to those 3 things. We have not really understood how it’s interwoven in our collective perceived reality and daily life. And how potentially 99% of our individual and collective suffering is coming from there only.
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The only thing we still don’t get is what it truly means to have Power With and not the Power Over.
Power With the Nature and not over Her. Power with our Bodies and not over them.
Power with your employee and not over, for, by… because I am your boss.
Power with your client, collaborator, subcontractor and not over them.
Power with your citizens, your tribe and your community and not over them.
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Power. Not the Force. Those 2 things are also very different concepts. And produce very different results and impact.
Think about it sometimes.
But I will not go deeper in this one right now. It’s already quite a lot to breathe with.
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So back to the sacred trio ruling the ‘system’ and making the poor humans suffer. I feel creative to change their names a bit this time.
1. Me, Myself and I Culture (Wounded Individualism)
2. ‘Because I am your Father, so I must know better’ syndrome (Patriarchy)
3. Because my ‘people’ Knows better then yours, so shut a fuck-up or… else (Colonialism)
Those 3 concepts are behind every single pain and unease you experience in your daily reality. In your family. At work. In the ‘system’.
At least in my head and my reality it’s now very clear and very simple.
I can see now why our world is so fucked.
Because we all have very deep and very painful wound related to those things.
This is the 3 happy elephants in the rooms that everyone is yelling to talk about, but no one listens. And no one cares. We invest in the science, in the technologies, in the whatever fucking else because we don’t know how to simply sit and cry over all of the horrible things we did, we experienced and perpetuated. All things our parents, grandparents and other ancestors didn’t cry about.
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There is an entire ocean of unspoken words and frozen tears in our deep collective roots. Would you cry them with us? Would you help us to accept them, to forgive ourselves and to learn how to truly listen with an open heart and open mind to everything that was and everything that still is?
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If we don’t See and Understand how this is shaping our collective reality today, we will continue creating the same ‘system’ and suffering over and over.
Maybe more virtual this time. Maybe more Meta. Maybe more Crypto. Maybe more high-tech, radical, intergalactically quantum or what whatever other sexy word I could add to this list of nonsense.
But.
It will remain equally if not more fucked, painful and disturbing to all of us.
Individually and collectively. Locally and globally.
Now and in the Future.
