Ancestral Addict

If you want to heal ancestral trauma quickly and safely, observe very carefully the 'addict' in your family system.

Like don't just visually stare at and judge the addict, try to understand the system around the addict in your personal and your family system.

Also, if you genuinely want to help an addict, you need to consider the entire constellation of beings around them and not just focus on the individual.

To heal the addict, you actually need to heal the entire system around them.

It takes a village to raise a child; well, apparently, it also takes the entire village to truly heal an addict.

Because addiction is not a personal or individual problem. Addiction is a manifestation of the entire network of systemic problems. By definition, it's beyond the consciousness of a single person; it's already at the level of a constellation, network or a more macro system. One single nervous system and brain cannot process this kind of complexity safely and efficiently.

We usually divide trauma into three levels of scope and understanding: personal, ancestral, and collective.

In the collective perception, addiction seems to be most often associated with the personal level of healing. Which is a very inefficient and sometimes harmful approach to healing someone's addiction.

Addiction is a systemic trauma.

All addictions originate in childhood trauma. Childhood trauma is very intense and multidimensional.

A child until 7 years old mainly operates from the right brain hemisphere, the brain of perception and holographic understanding of their environment. It's literally like a sponge that can feel the entirety of the energetic qualities of the system when trauma occurs.

A child until 7 years old does not yet feel the difference in the energetic field between themselves, their mother, their father, or other siblings and even strangers. The only thing they feel is the state of collective consciousness around them, and they feel this with astonishing precision.

Precision also means intensity. So if you think you feel sad or happy or whatever else, your child is probably feeling from a few to a few million times more of what you feel in your nervous system. They have not yet developed the same set of protective mechanisms to help numb their pain as well as you have. The only choice a child has is to feel the full intensity of what is happening around them and to them. This is why it's so easy to traumatize a child. Because they are hypersensitive supercomputers, very fragile and vulnerable.

Their state of consciousness is still completely open and highly interconnected with the entire family, even the Earth and the Universe.

When a child feels an emotion, they actually do not yet have the capacity in their brain to know if what they feel belongs to them or if it belongs to the stressed mother. If something traumatic happens to the child, the trauma actually stores a lot of information not only from their consciousness but from the collective field.

It actually cannot be personal because a newborn child doesn't yet have developed individual consciousness. What they create as trauma in those moments is actually a very complex system, the sum of the consciousness of everyone and everything else around the child.

When traumatized, a child always stores fragments of collective consciousness inside their psyche.

They do this to discharge the family from too much painful energy. Because they know that if their family suffers less, they will have more chances to survive and develop a proper personal nervous system and individuality at some point in their life.

This is how children make themselves sick to try to alleviate the pain of their parents or the entire community to help them heal. A child does not need the healing. The families around the child need some deep healing to ensure they remain trauma-free before their own nervous systems can normally process it.

They create systemic trauma in their little bodies to hide the intensity of our collective suffering somewhere.

So when trauma happens in the family, the most systemic and the most intense imprint of that trauma will usually be present in the youngest child.

This is why kids during war can get very sick and dysregulated. They are actually imprinting the pain of the entire country or even the world in their nervous systems. The kind of trauma this creates in their personal body is beyond what you can imagine and certainly not feel. You will probably die of a heart attack if you were able to feel the electricity of the trauma some of those kids have stored in their bodies.

If the family and community system around the child does not have the capacity to help the child process all of this heavy energetic charge, the child will suffer greatly and create a huge trauma in their body.

People who suffer from addictions are usually the most sensitive souls. They most often have a very sophisticated hypersensitivity in their nervous systems.

Most of the time, the addict will also be the most empathetic figure of the family, even if not many would be able to actually see it or recognize this openly.

In order to heal addiction, a person needs to be strong enough to heal the systemic trauma that is stored in their bodies. Differently put, trauma related to their entire family system or even our global community sometimes.

A mother who has watched too much news about all the terrible things happening in the world might have programmed her child for a very interesting path of healing and recovering from a significant amount of collective suffering.

She should not be surprised if her child ends up being hyperactive and needing some drugs to go to school or to heal from juvenile depression that seems mysterious and unjust.

After 7, your child will start building their emotional body, where they will start processing the emotional pain of soldiers and families who have lost their lives in a war, if that was what you were exposed to during your pregnancy!

They do not need drugs when they feel those kinds of emotions in their system.

Those emotions need to be processed in the most coherent and safe way possible for the child, the mother, and the entire family system! They just need the real frequency of love, peace, compassion, and care.

What they actually need is sanity in this world. They need a global community that is able to take ownership and responsibility for the pain they inflict on each other. Their pain needs to be felt, digested, understood, and integrated. If we refuse to feel it with them, this pain will consume our own future, maybe quickly, maybe slowly, but it will if we don't deal with it with them in a coherent and safe manner.

The pain that our children feel is supposed to be processed by all of us. This is why it takes the entire village to raise a normal child.

Since our children are already exposed to the level of collective pain and global scale of trauma, the village to be able to hold and heal it must now also be global.

But this planet-scale village cannot be established in the way we are living today. With the technology we use or the culture we propagate, we are not yet equipped to support our kids in properly healing our collective trauma.

When we would really have such a global village, each one of us would actually care about the pain a child feels, no matter if we know them or their family personally. Because in this village, you will actually understand that a child suffering somewhere in a stupid war is actually living your pain and paying a very high price for the ignorance you have about how much they actually love you and this planet.

Do you see a bit better now how stupid and cruel it is to let the addict deal with their trauma all by themselves?

How any attempt for a solo recovery from an addiction is actually a grave an addict is digging for themselves (if they are courageous enough to face this kind of shadow by themselves).

If you put all of the responsibility for the healing of any kind of addiction on the shoulders of the addict in your family and you don't help them deal with it, it might eventually destroy your entire family system.

Because if the addict, for some reason, leaves their body and this planet, their entire systemic trauma will be on the shoulders of the rest of the family. This is how trauma is transferred between generational and ancestral lines. Nothing is created, nothing is lost. Everything is transformed.

And trust me, it's way easier to heal the addict in your family now than to deal with the consequences of their trauma in your grandchildren once they are not around anymore.

Because if their trauma is transferred down the ancestral line before it is healed, it actually complicates the entire system at an exponential rate and even changes the nature of trauma sometimes into something very wild and intense.

This means, if you think the addict is too much to deal with today, you really don't want to know how their stuck energy would affect your kids or grandkids.

Because they will be even smarter than the addict, and this systemic trauma also will be way wiser and even more painful in their bodies.

This is why AA meetings work so well for any kind of addictions. It is not just about the quality of the facilitator or the taste of the cookies they provide. And not even about the 12-step program or God.

They create a super nervous system between them that has the capacity to process a very complex trauma collectively.

When they meet weekly, their nervous systems form a very strong shared awareness and capacity for holding the intensity of all kinds. They become intimate and feel safe with each other. Because they can feel the depth of their respective suffering in each other, they can develop a shared brain. Because of this, they actually form a super nervous system for their group-level consciousness.

It's a network of all of their wisdom put together.

This collective network consciousness is now powerful enough to hold the kinds of systemic trauma that they are trying to deal with to heal their addiction.

Many people who properly go through the AA process often talk about God saving them somehow from the addiction. They talk about moments of transcendence where something bigger was involved. They also all say the way it was possible for them to heal was this mysterious divine intervention at some point during the process.

I actually don't believe it has anything to do with the intervention of God. Not at this level. Maybe some did have some experiences like that, but it was most likely unrelated to the actual group of AA they are attending. I think, usually, God has more interesting things to do... It's very rare that he would talk to you personally.

Once you can hear the frequency of God for real, we all wake up instantly!

''But, the transcendence moment was real! Every single cell of my body felt it! I have changed forever and magically healed. What happened then if not God?''

I believe what they actually experienced is the power of good quality collective consciousness; the shared soul they have created with their AA group.

When they meet and process so much deep systemic trauma together, they actually do create a very powerful shared and collective wisdom. They create a super consciousness with their own awareness.

And when they are mentally and physically ready to 'meet' the energy of their collective consciousness, it might actually feel a lot like God.

You usually feel only your nervous system in your perception of the world. And now, imagine at some point, your brain can access an entire ecosystem of wisdom that is formed by 7 to 12 brains you know and trust.

Can you imagine the power of this constellation? Can you imagine the quantity of energy and information they can process together? Can you perceive what would happen in your own nervous system if you had access to process the information and energy of an entire group?

Yes, it is transcending!

This is the kind of games they play at the AA meetings. They literally teach themselves how to operate and how to heal at the collective level of consciousness. And this is what actually allows them to heal their addictions.

It's not the God who saved them and magically healed their addictions. It's the collective consciousness they have formed with their sweat and efforts themselves.

They yelled. They cried. They got broken. They did stupid shit. But, they did all of that together in a safe and controlled environment. And all of that has contributed to create a container strong enough to feel intimate and vulnerable with each other.

They are the ones to create the God that saved them. They have created a collective soul together. And this collective soul now has the potential to hold them and help them integrate the depth of the trauma hiding under their addictions.

When they heal their trauma, they feel the collective field that is holding them in their nervous system, they have access to a collective consciousness of their support group. They don't feel God yet.

They just understand that their 'saviour' must be at a collective level consciousness to deal with their systemic kind of trauma. And this is exactly what they did. Without even knowing or realizing it, they have actually developed their brains and nervous systems to the extreme sophistication of consciousness and awareness. They co-created themselves the thing that actually saved them.

Their simple and free AA meetings were literally the training camps to efficiently and wisely elevate their brain capacity and even expand their consciousness or spiritual level. They have created the best container you could think of to teach themselves the most amazing superpowers and even magical abilities of their own systems.

If you really want to understand how collective consciousness operates, go attend a few of those meetings and try to feel the essence of their collective soul. And what it can do. And how it can heal.

When a family member of yours goes to rehab or to an AA meeting, you should actually thank them every time. Maybe even send them a card or flowers.

Because without you even realizing it, they are trying to heal your entire family.

Because they are doing their best in dealing with their addiction, your kids will actually be healthier and happier.

But if you cut the addict out of your family system. If you shame them and reject them because you think they are too broken or mean, you literally make their life a living hell on Earth. Because you break a connection between their nervous system and yours when you do that.

And this is like putting a literal bomb of the suffering of your entire family in their house and closing the door from the outside while they are still there.

And afterward, you wonder if they are still alive or if they managed to escape from the fire flames all by themselves. Or if they were smart or strong enough to learn the lesson from your punishment of emotional deprivation.

Because you are spiritual enough to know that you cannot heal them from their suffering. So you will pray for them and hope they are strong enough. And let them deal with their own shit to be a hero of their own life.

And you think you are compassionate and understanding and being protective of something in those moments. But in reality, all you do is close your eyes to what you don't have the guts to truly see and feel. At least not at the level the addict can.

If you manage to open your heart enough to feel the real suffering of the addict and remain connected to them with compassion and understanding, they will heal your soul, and also they will heal the entire family system in a very magical way.

This is also why the shame around the addict in the family can take very dramatic proportions sometimes. Because the addict shines the light on the systemic trauma in their own nervous system, and usually, others actually cannot deal with it. So their protection mechanisms get all activated, and all they want is to get rid of the addict in the space and sometimes even out of their lives.

But what they feel actually does not belong to the addict. What they feel is the intensity of their pain but in their own nervous system. The hypersensitivity and consciousness of the addict help them to feel their own suffering. If it's too much for them to deal with, they will most likely shame and reject the addict.

They will do this simply to protect themselves from suffering.

It's not good or bad. Your nervous system has decided it's the best solution for you. And it's great and perfect.

But you need to also realize that when you shame or reject an addict, this simply means that if you were the host for the same trauma, you would actually be addicted to something even more.

Because your nervous system would also not be able to process what they have on their heart and what kind of pain lives in their nervous system.

When people say addicts are weak, something turns upside down in my stomach. If you think an addict is the weakest and the least evolved person in your family system, you are not even close to healing your actual ancestral trauma and the deep systemic tentacles of it all around you. And your nervous processing capacity is probably not even close to what the addict has as power in their own inner computer.

From the actual energetic and informational processing performance perspective, the addict is probably the strongest wizard of your ancestral-level consciousness you have in your family!

You can use the addict's behavior and level of well-being as a measurement tool of the healing process in your family system and your ancestral line.

The addict's state of consciousness is the closest representation of the family-wide unconscious content. It's like the trauma of your entire family can be seen and sensed through the experience the addict is having in their personal life.

You can go heal your ancestral trauma with mushrooms and flowers in your hair, or you can also go for tea with the addict of your family and actually open your mind and your heart to what it is like to be them. What it is like to truly feel them. Not the addiction and not the trauma part of them. But the entire constellation of their majesty and inner beauty. Of yours and your community's beauty.

Simply ask them what is so precious and important about this thing they hold in their heart that no one wants to listen or feel. What makes them destroy their own life to protect this valuable family treasure.

What is it that they are holding so tightly in their soul that cannot be seen by them, but only by a safe and compassionate community around them.

If we were able to truly see and feel the amazing being in the heart of the addict, what kind of gifts could they share with all of us?